Saturday, August 17, 2013

Room at the Table

 

 Imagine walking into a restaurant and noticing a group of people sitting together in a booth. Just as you're about to request a table for yourself, one of your co-workers waves you over. Even though you don't really know anyone there, they seem friendly enough, so you decide to take up the invitation.


As you approach, someone whispers, "Budge over."
 
The whole group shifts over a bit, leaving a spot for you to sit. A couple people don't look exactly cofortable, but they still invite you to join them. Soon you find yourself connecting with them, and feelings of friendship begin to develope.

That's how I feel about AYA. 

I used to identify as a sissy. Then I came to Second Life and discovered that, even though we had similarities, there were some differences that sometimes clashed with how others think about sissies.

One thing that may be at the root of some of that difference is my gender identity. While I do tend to be feminine, I don't identify as female. I identify as male.

This is why I use male pronouns. I'm not sure why, but it seems as if this is seen as unsissylike. Maybe it's seen as expessing male dominance? If that's true, then I hope people will believe me when I say I've never seen males as inherently dominant.

Until a few years ago, I felt the exact opposite was true. It wasn't so much that I didn't see them acting dominant, as it felt strange to see it. It almost felt like I'd slipped into an alternate universe at times.

Despite this and a couple of other differences, I've found acceptance, and even the beginning of friendships at AYA. So, to all you wonderful people, I'd like to offer my heartfelt thanks.


Thank you for making room for me at the table. 

     Ana At Aya  
Trainee Maid Anastasio Luminos

By Ana
Layout Marta 

9 comments:

  1. I was taught way back in the beginning not to male pronouns and I have always been under the understanding that they are discouraged for sissies.

    but Ana, you are a lovely maid and a lovely person and I love having you around

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    1. Oh wow ... that really means a lot to me. Thank you so much! :)

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  3. You are wonderful Ana. So glad to know you.

    Erin

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  4. ::smiling brightly:: Thank you Governess Kara and Doctor Erin!

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  5. Ana
    You are a wonderful and warm person.
    I am so glad you have been able to write these words and i look forward to spending more time with you while your around the Mansion
    I personally am very happy you are part of our Community

    Head Governess Zav

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    1. Thank you, Governess Zav. I look forward to seeing you in the mansion too! :)

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